The Reflection Method

Episodes

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1. Ep. 11 · September 2, 2026 · 14 minThe smear campaign: when the story about you travels without youHow a managed story about your character gets distributed before you know it exists, why reasonable people believe it, who carries it and why, and the small set of responses that actually work.
2. Ep. 10 · September 1, 2026 · 15 minPost-discard: rebuilding identity, redefining reality, reclaiming selfThe recovery side of the pattern — what the discard actually removes, why your reality needs rebuilding before anything else, how identity gets reclaimed in layers, and what coming back to yourself actually looks like.
3. Ep. 9 · September 1, 2026 · 15 minNarcissistic behavior as a predatory pattern: targeting, testing, extractionWhy 'predatory' is the right word — how a target gets chosen for what they have to give, how boundaries get probed cheaply and early, and how the relationship gets run at a one-way draw.
4. Ep. 8 · September 1, 2026 · 19 minPre-discard: when the story gets rewritten before you're goneThe quiet run-up before a betrayal or discard — how shared history gets rewritten, how you get isolated from support, and how the audience gets pre-briefed to hear your pain as proof.
5. Ep. 7 · August 29, 2026 · 22 minFlying monkeys and enablers: the people in the middleWhy a controlling person recruits friends and family to gather information, carry messages, and apply pressure — and how to respond without briefing against yourself.
6. Ep. 6 · August 28, 2026 · 21 minIntermittent reinforcement: hot, then cold, then hot againWhy unpredictable warmth grips harder than steady kindness, what hot-cold cycles look like in an ordinary week, and what you can actually do while you are still in one.
7. Ep. 5 · August 27, 2026 · 21 minTrauma bonding: the pull you can't explainWhy you can know a relationship is harming you and still feel pulled back, what intermittent reinforcement actually does to attachment, and how the bond loosens over time.
8. Ep. 4 · August 25, 2026 · 33 minGrief that doesn't look like griefWhy losing a difficult relationship can hurt more than losing a good one, what the first months actually feel like, and how to tell ordinary grief from the kind that needs help.
9. Ep. 3 · August 18, 2026 · 41 minThe week after the discardWhat the first seven days after being discarded tend to look like, why hoovering arrives right on schedule, and how to survive the quiet.
10. Ep. 2 · August 11, 2026 · 31 minWhat gaslighting actually sounds likeA phrase-by-phrase walk through the sentences that make you doubt your own memory, and what to write down instead of arguing.
11. Ep. 1 · August 4, 2026 · 32 minGreen flags are boring on purposeWhy the healthiest relationship signs feel unremarkable, and how to tell a real green flag from its convincing counterfeit.