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The Reflection Method
Removes both messages and all bait and JADE results. Nothing is saved.

Communication Sandbox

BIFF Message Sandbox

Paste a difficult message, see what's bait and what actually needs an answer, then check your draft reply for JADE traps before you send it.

Private by design: everything runs in your browser. Your text is never sent anywhere or saved, and it's wiped when you leave this page.

Detection sensitivity

The default balance: clear patterns plus insults and emotional tone. This setting lasts only for this visit and isn't saved.

Explore with a demo

Optional. Every demo message is made up, so you can see how bait and JADE results work without typing anything personal.

How to explore a demo (4 quick steps)
  1. Pick a scenario below. It fills both the incoming message and a sample reply.
  2. Read the bait flags on the incoming message. Each one names the pattern, like a guilt trip or urgency pressure, and the words that triggered it.
  3. Check the JADE flags on the reply. These show where it justifies, argues, defends or over-explains.
  4. Compare the rewrite and its “Why it works” notes, then switch scenarios or sensitivity to see how results change.

Open any flag’s explanation, or the glossary, to see what each pattern means in plain words.

1. Message you received

2. Your draft reply

3. Clean rewrite

Paste a message above, or pick a scenario, to see a rewrite.

Glossary of patterns

Bait patterns

Guilt trip
Making you feel responsible for their feelings so you give in. Example: “If you really cared, you'd do this.”
Accusation / blame
Broad blame or “always/never” claims that aren't true. Example: “You never cooperate.”
Possible projection
Accusing you of the very thing they are doing. Example: “You're the controlling one.”
Gaslighting marker
Trying to make you doubt your memory or feelings. Example: “That never happened.”
Urgency pressure
Fake deadlines or threats meant to rush you. Example: “Answer me right now or else.”
Emotional bait
Insults or outrage meant to get a reaction. Example: “How dare you.”

JADE traps

Justify
Giving reasons to win their approval. You can decide without their agreement.
Argue
Debating what really happened. It rarely ends the conflict.
Defend
Answering accusations as if they were fair. It keeps the focus on you.
Over-explain
Long explanations. More words give them more to pick apart.
Emotional reaction
Showing anger or hurt in writing. That reaction is often what bait is after.
Counter-attack
Hitting back with blame. It escalates and can be used against you.

If a message includes threats or you feel unsafe, stop drafting and use the crisis resources or your safety plan.

Learn more in the Gray Rock Method guide and common narcissist phrases.