Secure
You generally trust that people you're close to will show up, and you can express needs without collapsing or shutting down.
What is my attachment style?
A free, private self-check with plain-language explanations for the four styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized — and a script you can actually say. No signup. Nothing leaves your device.
The quiz
Answer honestly, not aspirationally. There are no wrong answers.
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Answer all 8 to see your primary style.
The four styles, briefly
Anxious (preoccupied)
Closeness feels safest when it's confirmed often. Distance — a late reply, a flat tone — can spike into worst-case stories fast.
Avoidant (dismissive)
You value independence and get uncomfortable when someone leans in emotionally. Withdrawing feels like self-protection.
Disorganized (fearful-avoidant)
You want closeness and fear it at the same time. The same person can feel like safety and threat in the same week.
FAQ
Can your attachment style change?
Yes. Styles are patterns, not permanent labels. Consistent, safe relationships and targeted therapy (EFT, IFS, attachment-focused CBT) shift them over time.
Can you have more than one attachment style?
Most people lean toward one primary style but show traits of another under stress or with specific people. That's normal, not a contradiction.
Is 'anxious attachment' the same as being clingy?
No. Anxious attachment describes a pattern of seeking reassurance when connection feels uncertain. 'Clingy' is a judgment; anxious attachment is a nervous-system response you can work with.
Is this quiz a diagnosis?
No. It's a private self-check to help you notice patterns. It doesn't replace a licensed therapist.
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