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Every article on the site, newest first. Each entry links to the full show-notes article. 21 articles total.
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2026
September 29, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 17
Dating dynamics through the lens of healing
Dating after harm is not a test you pass or fail. This episode looks at the early dynamics of a new relationship through a healing lens: what calm feels like when your nervous system has been trained on chaos, how to tell a green flag from a familiar hook, pacing that protects you without hiding you, and what to do with the fear that you will miss the signs again.
September 28, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 21
The journey of balance and the art of perpetual healing
Healing is not a finish line. How to treat setbacks as part of the path, balance care for yourself and others, and build small daily anchors that keep you steady.
September 25, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 20
Fostering green flags
Green flags are not only found — they are grown. How to make honesty cheap, practise repair, protect steady habits, and treat boundaries as an invitation.
September 22, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 16
Boundaries with a narcissistic parent
You did not choose this relationship and there is no version of yourself that existed before it. This episode is about building a workable arrangement with a parent who is not going to change: boundaries stated as what you will do, adjusting one wire at a time, surviving the escalation that follows, grieving the parent you needed, and protecting your own children without a confrontation.
September 17, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 19
The art of the mask
Common dating pitfalls after recovery, how polished emotional language can imitate safety, and how to recognize patterns without abandoning your own judgment.
September 16, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 18
A rewritten broken heart
Every broken heart arrives with a story attached, and the first draft is almost always the cruelest one. This episode is about rewriting it — not into a flattering story, but an accurate one: why self-blame feels like control, how to restore the conditions the first draft deleted, what the body is doing underneath the storytelling, and how to end the story facing forward.
September 15, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 15
Co-parenting with a narcissist
When you share a child, no contact is not available — the relationship keeps going in the form of handovers, school emails and schedule changes. This episode builds a structure that works without the other parent's cooperation: businesslike communication, a boring paper trail, fewer negotiable gaps, and protecting your child from being the jury or the courier.
September 8, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 14
Rediscovering love after narcissistic abuse
After a narcissistic relationship, the word love itself gets contaminated — intensity reads as love and calm reads as nothing. This episode recalibrates your signals: getting your own life back online first, vetting with time and small tests instead of interrogation, opening up in doses, and what love actually looks like from the other side.
September 2, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 13
Rebuilding self-trust after gaslighting
Gaslighting does not erase your memory — it removes your permission to act on it. This episode maps the self-doubt loop and gives you the practices that rebuild working judgment: logging your reads, separating observation from interpretation, thirty-second decisions, and repair without collapse.
September 2, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 12
Riding the waves of grief: how to navigate it
An in-depth guide to grief after a difficult relationship — why it moves in waves instead of stages, the anatomy of each wave, what to do while one is on you, how to use the calm gaps, and how to tell ordinary grief from the kind that needs help.
September 2, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 11
The smear campaign: when the story about you travels without you
How a managed story about your character gets distributed before you know it exists, why reasonable people believe it, who carries it and why, and the small set of responses that actually work.
September 1, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 10
Post-discard: rebuilding identity, redefining reality, reclaiming self
The recovery side of the pattern — what the discard actually removes, why your reality needs rebuilding before anything else, how identity gets reclaimed in layers, and what coming back to yourself actually looks like.
September 1, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 9
Narcissistic behavior as a predatory pattern: targeting, testing, extraction
Why 'predatory' is the right word — how a target gets chosen for what they have to give, how boundaries get probed cheaply and early, and how the relationship gets run at a one-way draw.
September 1, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 8
Pre-discard: when the story gets rewritten before you're gone
The quiet run-up before a betrayal or discard — how shared history gets rewritten, how you get isolated from support, and how the audience gets pre-briefed to hear your pain as proof.
August 29, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 7
Flying monkeys and enablers: the people in the middle
Why a controlling person recruits friends and family to gather information, carry messages, and apply pressure — and how to respond without briefing against yourself.
August 28, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 6
Intermittent reinforcement: hot, then cold, then hot again
Why unpredictable warmth grips harder than steady kindness, what hot-cold cycles look like in an ordinary week, and what you can actually do while you are still in one.
August 27, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 5
Trauma bonding: the pull you can't explain
Why you can know a relationship is harming you and still feel pulled back, what intermittent reinforcement actually does to attachment, and how the bond loosens over time.
August 25, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 4
Grief that doesn't look like grief
Why losing a difficult relationship can hurt more than losing a good one, what the first months actually feel like, and how to tell ordinary grief from the kind that needs help.
August 18, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 3
The week after the discard
What the first seven days after being discarded tend to look like, why hoovering arrives right on schedule, and how to survive the quiet.
August 11, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 2
What gaslighting actually sounds like
A phrase-by-phrase walk through the sentences that make you doubt your own memory, and what to write down instead of arguing.
August 4, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 1
Green flags are boring on purpose
Why the healthiest relationship signs feel unremarkable, and how to tell a real green flag from its convincing counterfeit.