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Every article on the site, newest first. Each entry links to the full show-notes article. 11 articles total.
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2026
September 2, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 11
The smear campaign: when the story about you travels without you
How a managed story about your character gets distributed before you know it exists, why reasonable people believe it, who carries it and why, and the small set of responses that actually work.
September 1, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 10
Post-discard: rebuilding identity, redefining reality, reclaiming self
The recovery side of the pattern — what the discard actually removes, why your reality needs rebuilding before anything else, how identity gets reclaimed in layers, and what coming back to yourself actually looks like.
September 1, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 9
Narcissistic behavior as a predatory pattern: targeting, testing, extraction
Why 'predatory' is the right word — how a target gets chosen for what they have to give, how boundaries get probed cheaply and early, and how the relationship gets run at a one-way draw.
September 1, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 8
Pre-discard: when the story gets rewritten before you're gone
The quiet run-up before a betrayal or discard — how shared history gets rewritten, how you get isolated from support, and how the audience gets pre-briefed to hear your pain as proof.
August 29, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 7
Flying monkeys and enablers: the people in the middle
Why a controlling person recruits friends and family to gather information, carry messages, and apply pressure — and how to respond without briefing against yourself.
August 28, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 6
Intermittent reinforcement: hot, then cold, then hot again
Why unpredictable warmth grips harder than steady kindness, what hot-cold cycles look like in an ordinary week, and what you can actually do while you are still in one.
August 27, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 5
Trauma bonding: the pull you can't explain
Why you can know a relationship is harming you and still feel pulled back, what intermittent reinforcement actually does to attachment, and how the bond loosens over time.
August 25, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 4
Grief that doesn't look like grief
Why losing a difficult relationship can hurt more than losing a good one, what the first months actually feel like, and how to tell ordinary grief from the kind that needs help.
August 18, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 3
The week after the discard
What the first seven days after being discarded tend to look like, why hoovering arrives right on schedule, and how to survive the quiet.
August 11, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 2
What gaslighting actually sounds like
A phrase-by-phrase walk through the sentences that make you doubt your own memory, and what to write down instead of arguing.
August 4, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 1
Green flags are boring on purpose
Why the healthiest relationship signs feel unremarkable, and how to tell a real green flag from its convincing counterfeit.