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- gaslighting (2)
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Articles tagged “self-trust”
September 29, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 17
Dating dynamics through the lens of healing
Dating after harm is not a test you pass or fail. This episode looks at the early dynamics of a new relationship through a healing lens: what calm feels like when your nervous system has been trained on chaos, how to tell a green flag from a familiar hook, pacing that protects you without hiding you, and what to do with the fear that you will miss the signs again.
September 17, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 19
The art of the mask
Common dating pitfalls after recovery, how polished emotional language can imitate safety, and how to recognize patterns without abandoning your own judgment.
September 16, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 18
A rewritten broken heart
Every broken heart arrives with a story attached, and the first draft is almost always the cruelest one. This episode is about rewriting it — not into a flattering story, but an accurate one: why self-blame feels like control, how to restore the conditions the first draft deleted, what the body is doing underneath the storytelling, and how to end the story facing forward.
September 8, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 14
Rediscovering love after narcissistic abuse
After a narcissistic relationship, the word love itself gets contaminated — intensity reads as love and calm reads as nothing. This episode recalibrates your signals: getting your own life back online first, vetting with time and small tests instead of interrogation, opening up in doses, and what love actually looks like from the other side.
September 2, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 13
Rebuilding self-trust after gaslighting
Gaslighting does not erase your memory — it removes your permission to act on it. This episode maps the self-doubt loop and gives you the practices that rebuild working judgment: logging your reads, separating observation from interpretation, thirty-second decisions, and repair without collapse.