The Reflection Method blog
Every episode written up as an article — what we cover, the phrases worth noticing, and what to try this week. Prefer to listen? Browse the podcast episodes.
New here? Read the narcissistic abuse recovery series in order — 11 articles from naming what happened to rebuilding afterwards.
Topics
- All articles
- recovery (4)
- boundaries (3)
- no contact (3)
- smear campaign (3)
- after discard (2)
- betrayal (2)
- flying monkeys (2)
- grief (2)
- intermittent reinforcement (2)
- isolation (2)
- trauma bond (2)
- communication (1)
- counterfeits (1)
- early dating (1)
- enablers (1)
- extraction (1)
- gaslighting (1)
- green flags (1)
- hoovering (1)
- hot and cold (1)
- identity (1)
- narcissistic behavior (1)
- narrative (1)
- pacing (1)
- phrases (1)
- post-discard (1)
- pre-discard (1)
- predatory patterns (1)
- record keeping (1)
- red flags (1)
- self-worth (1)
- targeting (1)
Articles tagged “recovery”
September 2, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 11
The smear campaign: when the story about you travels without you
How a managed story about your character gets distributed before you know it exists, why reasonable people believe it, who carries it and why, and the small set of responses that actually work.
September 1, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 10
Post-discard: rebuilding identity, redefining reality, reclaiming self
The recovery side of the pattern — what the discard actually removes, why your reality needs rebuilding before anything else, how identity gets reclaimed in layers, and what coming back to yourself actually looks like.
August 27, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 5
Trauma bonding: the pull you can't explain
Why you can know a relationship is harming you and still feel pulled back, what intermittent reinforcement actually does to attachment, and how the bond loosens over time.
August 25, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 4
Grief that doesn't look like grief
Why losing a difficult relationship can hurt more than losing a good one, what the first months actually feel like, and how to tell ordinary grief from the kind that needs help.