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- boundaries (3)
- no contact (3)
- smear campaign (3)
- after discard (2)
- betrayal (2)
- flying monkeys (2)
- grief (2)
- intermittent reinforcement (2)
- isolation (2)
- trauma bond (2)
- communication (1)
- counterfeits (1)
- early dating (1)
- enablers (1)
- extraction (1)
- gaslighting (1)
- green flags (1)
- hoovering (1)
- hot and cold (1)
- identity (1)
- narcissistic behavior (1)
- narrative (1)
- pacing (1)
- phrases (1)
- post-discard (1)
- pre-discard (1)
- predatory patterns (1)
- record keeping (1)
- red flags (1)
- self-worth (1)
- targeting (1)
Articles tagged “smear campaign”
September 2, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 11
The smear campaign: when the story about you travels without you
How a managed story about your character gets distributed before you know it exists, why reasonable people believe it, who carries it and why, and the small set of responses that actually work.
September 1, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 8
Pre-discard: when the story gets rewritten before you're gone
The quiet run-up before a betrayal or discard — how shared history gets rewritten, how you get isolated from support, and how the audience gets pre-briefed to hear your pain as proof.
August 29, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 7
Flying monkeys and enablers: the people in the middle
Why a controlling person recruits friends and family to gather information, carry messages, and apply pressure — and how to respond without briefing against yourself.