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Articles tagged “grief”
September 22, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 16
Boundaries with a narcissistic parent
You did not choose this relationship and there is no version of yourself that existed before it. This episode is about building a workable arrangement with a parent who is not going to change: boundaries stated as what you will do, adjusting one wire at a time, surviving the escalation that follows, grieving the parent you needed, and protecting your own children without a confrontation.
September 16, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 18
A rewritten broken heart
Every broken heart arrives with a story attached, and the first draft is almost always the cruelest one. This episode is about rewriting it — not into a flattering story, but an accurate one: why self-blame feels like control, how to restore the conditions the first draft deleted, what the body is doing underneath the storytelling, and how to end the story facing forward.
September 2, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 12
Riding the waves of grief: how to navigate it
An in-depth guide to grief after a difficult relationship — why it moves in waves instead of stages, the anatomy of each wave, what to do while one is on you, how to use the calm gaps, and how to tell ordinary grief from the kind that needs help.
August 25, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 4
Grief that doesn't look like grief
Why losing a difficult relationship can hurt more than losing a good one, what the first months actually feel like, and how to tell ordinary grief from the kind that needs help.
August 18, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 3
The week after the discard
What the first seven days after being discarded tend to look like, why hoovering arrives right on schedule, and how to survive the quiet.