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Articles tagged “hot and cold”
August 28, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 6
Intermittent reinforcement: hot, then cold, then hot again
Why unpredictable warmth grips harder than steady kindness, what hot-cold cycles look like in an ordinary week, and what you can actually do while you are still in one.