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New here? Read the narcissistic abuse recovery series in order — 11 articles from naming what happened to rebuilding afterwards.

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Articles tagged “boundaries”

September 25, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 20
Fostering green flags
Green flags are not only found — they are grown. How to make honesty cheap, practise repair, protect steady habits, and treat boundaries as an invitation.
September 22, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 16
Boundaries with a narcissistic parent
You did not choose this relationship and there is no version of yourself that existed before it. This episode is about building a workable arrangement with a parent who is not going to change: boundaries stated as what you will do, adjusting one wire at a time, surviving the escalation that follows, grieving the parent you needed, and protecting your own children without a confrontation.
September 17, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 19
The art of the mask
Common dating pitfalls after recovery, how polished emotional language can imitate safety, and how to recognize patterns without abandoning your own judgment.
September 15, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 15
Co-parenting with a narcissist
When you share a child, no contact is not available — the relationship keeps going in the form of handovers, school emails and schedule changes. This episode builds a structure that works without the other parent's cooperation: businesslike communication, a boring paper trail, fewer negotiable gaps, and protecting your child from being the jury or the courier.
September 8, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 14
Rediscovering love after narcissistic abuse
After a narcissistic relationship, the word love itself gets contaminated — intensity reads as love and calm reads as nothing. This episode recalibrates your signals: getting your own life back online first, vetting with time and small tests instead of interrogation, opening up in doses, and what love actually looks like from the other side.
September 2, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 13
Rebuilding self-trust after gaslighting
Gaslighting does not erase your memory — it removes your permission to act on it. This episode maps the self-doubt loop and gives you the practices that rebuild working judgment: logging your reads, separating observation from interpretation, thirty-second decisions, and repair without collapse.
September 1, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 9
Narcissistic behavior as a predatory pattern: targeting, testing, extraction
Why 'predatory' is the right word — how a target gets chosen for what they have to give, how boundaries get probed cheaply and early, and how the relationship gets run at a one-way draw.
August 29, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 7
Flying monkeys and enablers: the people in the middle
Why a controlling person recruits friends and family to gather information, carry messages, and apply pressure — and how to respond without briefing against yourself.
August 28, 2026 · 2 min read · Episode 6
Intermittent reinforcement: hot, then cold, then hot again
Why unpredictable warmth grips harder than steady kindness, what hot-cold cycles look like in an ordinary week, and what you can actually do while you are still in one.